Thoughts | on happiness

Happiness is a tricky thing. It means something different to ever single person. Happiness comes and goes, and it seems the older we get, the harder it is to hold on to. It's funny how we can find ourselves happy one day, and unhappy the next. It's funny how we can go on with our lives, and wake up one morning finding it hard to think of reasons to be happy.

It wasn't until I was 20 years old when I actually thought about happiness for the first tine. It was the first time in my life that I was self-aware enough to realize I wasn't happy. It was the first time I had to make a conscience effort to be happy. Being happy vs unhappy in a general sense what totally new to me, and now and then I find myself thinking about it. Anytime I find myself unhappy with my life, I try to figure out the source. As you would probably guess, it almost always leads back to my perspective on my current situation.

Countless time I have caught myself saying "I'll be happy when ____." Perhaps the most revealing experience I've had with this was two years ago, when I was planning on moving to Paris, France to be an au pair. If you want to know the story, check it out here >> Always Choose Paris <<. It's a good one, I promise.

We've got it all wrong. The thing is, happiness is not a destination. Happiness is not somewhere you work hard to get. It is not an end point. Happiness is a byproduct. It is a byproduct of how you are living your life.

So stop waiting for the next thing to make you happy. Stop making excuses why you're not. Find a way to live your life in a way that makes you happy. Just remember, it's not a destination, it's a byproduct.


  1. I'm a total stranger to this blog... but this post is so so close to home for me. I saw a wonderful family ripped apart because someone needed to go "find themselves" to be happy. Love this post! (loved the paris one too).

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  3. so totally random and hoping you don't find this absolutely creepy! but through another blog i discovered yours and was blog stalking and just think you're so rad. and this post was exactly what i needed to read tonight. so i borrowed your photos and blogged about it. keep doing what you're doing sister. xxx.